65. Get Stronger or Live Small
(Epistemic status: Tutorial level advice; spelling out things that some people find tacitly obvious and others haven't thought about and still others aren't shaped to naturally accept.) It never gets easier - you just get stronger. If you don't get stronger, you'll have to settle for living small. ...Alright, that's going to require a lot of additional background to make sense. There's this idea in the game Go of "living small". You settle for less, for making a tiny shape worth very few points, because you know you're not strong enough - as a player, or in a fight - to get anything more. This is often the right move. However, you can't win a game this way. At some point, unless the game is going very strangely, you need to be large, take up space, and make points somewhere. For another bit of background, there's the common refrain that "it gets better", or that something desirable about you is "not true yet... growth mindset...